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NYC Tutoring

Posted in Events, fashion, style, summer wear, Uncategorized, Work Chic by kayemlin on September 2, 2011

I’m in NYC this weekend, and it has been eventful. I do miss NY sometime, but I’m loving DC so much that I don’t think I can move back here. It’s too hectic for me. Sometimes I just need to go take a breather and just stop and stare when I’m in the city. The one thing that I do miss about NY is the mix of people, and I always think about the students that I used to tutor. I used to tutor students of different backgrounds who were failing school. I was tutoring 8 individual students- all girls- and they ranged from 1st grade to 11th grade. I was so happy to have gotten that job because I felt like I was making such a big difference in the students’ lives.

I remember coming home from tutoring these kids (I was working practically as a social worker) and remembering just how happy and sad I was each time. Many of them came from nothing. They didn’t have people to support and push them hence their grades were bad. Many lived in hostile neighborhoods and were teased badly. Others were left back 3 times and told me that that it was social suicide if they were ever seen with books in their hands or a tutor by their side.

The one little girl who left the biggest impression on me was this beautiful 1st grader. I won’t tell you her name ( it is very unique and pretty) because I want her to be given some kind of privacy. She had 2 parents who were both deaf and an autistic brother. I used to go to her home three times a week and tutor her in Math and English. She was teased so badly by her peers. Her books were ripped, and she could barely write in them. She had her writing notebook duct taped in the front and inside the pages because it was ripped; she told me her parents couldn’t afford to get her more. I didn’t know just how badly her situation was. Her brother was also teased, but he was a little older and I was sure that he could fend for himself. She, on the other hand, this little bright thing, is so smart, and with the weight of her family on her shoulders and being a girl, she was sensitive to the teasing ( As any young girl would be. Even older girls are still sensitive to these things.)

This 1st grader amazed me. I sat with her 2 hours each time I came over, and we used to go to the park, sit on steps, go to Dunkin Donuts and cafes, and study. She has the street smarts of a high schooler too. A few times I took her to Dunkin Donuts, and each time I’d take her there, I’d get her a hot chocolate and a donut. Then I’d tell her to take one donut and a hot chocolate for her brother as well. She’d never let me go back in with her when I took her back home. She just waved to me by the door and went inside. I later found out that she never gave her brother the donuts or the hot chocolate. She was hiding then eating the donut and drinking the hot chocolate herself. She loved her brother so much, but she was being a little sneaky and loved treats.

One time, as I was visiting the family  on a Saturday ( one of my last days with her), I brought her and her brother treats and school supplies. The brother all of a sudden came up to me and jumped and squeezed me so hard. I thought I was going to pass out. The little girl yells out in laughter and starts jumping, ” Oh, he likes you. He never hugs anyone. He really really likes you.” I didn’t know what to do. I smiled, but I was hoping that he would’ve been a little bit easier on my shoulders. She later told me, after our 3 months were over, ” I used to get teased all the time, but since you came around, none of the girls tease me anymore. They actually want to be my friend.” 😦   I thought that was the most rewarding compliment I have ever gotten in my life. The little girl is such a gift to her family. She helps them communicate to others. She helps her mom with laundry, helps her brother and is the sunshine of her dad. You know that she is just their world. I know she could go such a long way in life, and I just hope that she has people to keep her on that track. After our tutoring session ended for good, I tried to get in touch with her, but never got a response. I tried contacting her one last time before I moved to DC, but that wasn’t successful either. I just wish that I get in touch with her soon… like be a pen pal.
Here are the pictures of this beautiful baby girl.

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  1. Miftaza said, on May 25, 2012 at 5:26 am

    How Beautiful You Are…….


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